Meet Jeff Patterson. Deeply connected and gifted to work with people on fulfilling their 'Big Thing', their vision that contributes radical impact into the world. His intention is to serve humanity in everything he does. Moved to tears throughout this interview. Experience Jeff's vulnerability, awareness and inspiring journey. Jeff is a Success Coach, Author and Professional Speaker.
Living Wholly: What inspired you to be a Success Coach?
- In any career I’ve been in, you could always find me in a conversation with someone, asking them what “Big Thing” they desired to create. I would immediately see and sense things that were in the way for them (internally) and I could also see how they could get there- quickly.
- I remember in 1997, during my 20-year career as a professional Actor in Hollywood, people were calling me almost daily to coach them. Some were actors while others were producers, musicians, athletes and execs. There were days I was on the phone for more than six hours.
- I loved it and did it because I had always done it- since I was a young boy… I would listen and share what I saw and ask questions that resulted in these individuals becoming unstoppable and creating Big things.
- I didn’t consider it a career because it wasn’t something I was endeavoring to do. I wasn’t trying to coach them. It was just me being me. To me, coaching wasn’t a career- it was a part of me. It was an expression of who I was (and am.) It didn’t take long for some of the people I coached to hit high levels of success and when I saw how valuable our conversations were to them, I began seeing how this could really be a GameChanger for people and the world.
Living Wholly: What is your zone of genius with your clients?
Jeff Patterson: My zone of genius is coaching GameChangers to radically increase their impact. I help highly impactful leaders who want to change the world to make the necessary shifts to step into that reality and leave their greatest mark on the planet.
Living Wholly: What do you hold as one of your most unique gifts to the world?
- When I speak with someone, I can very quickly feel, sense and experience what is occurring in them. I also have the ability to help my client see and create a much bigger vision than they had previously been holding for themselves. The result is a 10x factor that has people going farther than they previously thought possible.
- I remember coaching a young man who wanted to be a “working actor.” I challenged him to be more specific and then to expand that vision even more. Through our coaching, he realized that he wanted to become a leading man on a network TV Series. We then began the real work of creating the shifts that would naturally result in that outcome. In less than a year he booked the lead role as Nick Burkhardt on the NBC series Grimm. If you have watched the show, you may know this actor as Dave Giuntoli. Both Dave and the show have gone on to win many awards and it’s been a very successful show for NBC.
Living Wholly: What has been the most challenging experience in your life that turned out to be the most meaningful opportunity to your life's path?
- As a young boy, I struggled to understand my parents divorcing when I was two years old. It broke my heart that I couldn’t see my father but one weekend a month. Compound this with my Mom’s struggle with alcoholism- I felt very alone and it seemed no one cared about what I was going through.
- I remember being eight years old and walking through the pastures of our Nebraska farm. Crying and feeling sorry for myself, I pleaded to God. “Why do I have to feel this way? What is wrong with me? Please take my life and do something good with it.” Moments later I was filled with the presence of warmth and total peace. It was like someone poured warm energy into my being from head to toe.
- Tears and feelings of intense inadequacy gave way to a warmth and sensation of total peace. I felt one with the corn plants, the cattle and the fence posts. Everything I looked at made sense. I felt the most incredible feeling of wholeness and being connected to all of life. There was no worry.
- I just stood there with tears, attempting to drink in this heavenly feeling. Moments later, I could no longer stand still (because I felt so good.) A volcano of motivation erupted out of me. I started preaching to the corn. “You can grow. You can do it. You can be knee high by the fourth of July!”
- This became a regular experience where I would walk through the fields questioning and crying… and then I would be filled by this presence. And, like the first time, I would be so inspired and filled with joy that I began “preaching to the corn.”
- One day I was preaching to the corn and felt something behind me. I turned around and saw nothing. I walked further while speaking, and again sensed I was being followed. This time I turned around and saw thousands of people behind me. It was like looking at a holograph and when I looked at this crowd they just stared, waiting for me to continue. It was in this moment that I knew that my life was about delivering this message to many people.
Living Wholly: What teachers have you worked with and/or currently work with to inspire and support your evolution in consciousness?
- I have been fortunate enough to work with many great teachers such as Michael Bernard Beckwith in Los Angeles, Ron and Mary Hulnick at the University of Santa Monica, Byron Katie and Tony Robbins. I have several coaches I’m working with currently and believe that great coaches have coaches. Stephen McGhee was my business coach for many years and he’s one of a kind.
- All that being said, my greatest coach has been my Father, Al Patterson. He coached me through some of the most challenging times of my life growing up and his creative and bold encouragement is a big part of who I am today.
photograph: Jeff and Stephen McGhee climbing Mt. Aconcagua
Living Wholly: In your words, how are you serving the world?
- I am serving the world by using everything I do to serve humanity. In any activity, I ask myself, how could I utilize this activity to make the world a better place. This is my intention, even though I may fall short.
- I remember when I was an actor in Hollywood, I would take one day each week and I would get in my car and go where I was intuitively led. I might end up on a street corner in downtown LA, or find myself at a bookstore in Beverly Hills. Invariably I would end up in a conversation and coach the person I was drawn to.
- At that time, I believed that as long as I used my gifts for the good of the world, that I would find my way and prosper. So, you could say that I serve the world by using my gifts to their greatest use in service to humanity. In this way we can each be a GameChanger.
Living Wholly: What does living wholly mean to you?
- My first thought is that the word “wholly” is very similar to “Holy.” To me, Wholly living means that I treat this life as a sacred endeavor. I don’t mean religious necessarily. I mean that I approach my life much like author Gary Zukoff describes as, “A Spiritual being having a human experience.” Living wholly means owning that I am Spirit, mind, body and emotion. I choose to live fully on all fronts of my existence and continually grow into my “greater yet to be. “
photograph: Jeff and his Wife, Lindsay
Living Wholly: How do you determine which clients to work with?
- I’m very selective about the individuals that I choose to work with one on one. Because we spend a lot of time together, I want to be sure the person I’m coaching is a quality person who is sincere in their motivations. I also want to know that what they are creating is going to add value in the world.
- I’m passionate about leaders who have a big vision and who know they are on this planet to make a difference- GameChangers. This includes people who are already making a huge impact in the world. It also includes those who are committed to having a significant impact but may not be at that level yet.
- All that being said, I choose to work with people that I enjoy. Sincerity, character and a desire to make a difference are big factors for me. It’s also paramount that the people I work with be willing to make their mission of great importance. This is the only way Big Things can truly be accomplished in the world.
- Some clients come to me because they are facing a challenge, while others find me because they know I can help them hit higher levels of performance and impact- no matter how successful they’ve already been.
Living Wholly: If you could share a mantra from your journey thus far, what would that be?
- “Temper on your steel.” As a boy, I could only see my Dad (due to parents divorce) once a month for a weekend. One night when I was five years old and in tears, I told my Dad that it hurt too much and that I didn’t think I could take it anymore. He told me something that changed my life forever. He said, “As tough as this is, this experience is building you toward something special in the future. It is Temper On Your Steel.” No matter what I’ve faced in life, I’ve always chosen to believe that every challenge is a gift and that it’s temper on my steel.
Living Wholly: What are your top 3 suggestions for living a purposeful and fulfilling life?
Have fun right where you are. If you can’t have fun now, what makes you think that you’ll have fun when you have exactly what you think you need? If I find myself in a situation where I'm not enjoying myself - I ask this question, “What could I do to bring more fun into this?” I listen for my intuitive answer. For example, early in my coaching career I was having many conversations with perspective clients over the phone. I was on the phone from 9am till 5pm. I wanted to have more fun because I noticed I was getting all serious. I asked the question, “what could I do to have more fun?” My answer was, “Sing to every person you get on a call with.” I about freaked out when I heard this. “You want me to do what?!” So, I did. It was very uncomfortable but something miraculous happened. First of all, I had great fun. Secondly, many of the people I spoke to were touched by the vulnerability and courage I was demonstrating in singing to them. some of them had breakthroughs just because of that alone.
Do what you want to do. If you want to lead people, then find some way to lead. If you want to be a surfer, then surf. So many of us are waiting to be given permission to do and be what we truly want to do and be. Do it now. Be it now. Who say’s you have to make money at it (in the beginning, if at all?)
Define your “Big Thing” and go for it. Many of us know what we want to do, but we hide and wait for permission or a guarantee that we can have it. But that day never comes (unless your vision is small.) The people that are most alive are creating something. The greater the endeavor we commit to, the greater the energy and Spirit we summon from within us. Small goals summon small energy. Want to be radically alive? Have a Big Thing and go for it.
photograph: Jeff, his Wife, Lindsay and daughter Emory
Living Wholly: How do you take care of your Self as a coach in order to be a clear vessel and centered in your Loving?
- This is a vast question because I do many things to take care of my Self. I love spending time in the garden with my wife Lindsay and our Daughter Emory. I especially enjoy the outdoors, fly-fishing, meditation and performing improv comedy. Having fun and creating time or rejuvenation is essential for anybody- especially in this line of work. There is often a lot of intensity because many of the clients I coach are in high stakes environments. Making sure I’m fresh is very important.
- I also love challenging myself by working with coaches and experts in their fields to expand my expertise and transformation as a leader. But nothing substitutes for my time of Spiritual Renewal. I am constantly reinventing what this looks like and it’s the cornerstone of my life.
Living Wholly: Is there something you’re currently working on that you’d like to share with us?
- That’s so kind of you to ask! Yes. I’m writing my first book, GameChangers: Change the World, Change Your Life. It’s been a blast writing and also very challenging. It’s an exciting thing to distill many of the principles and ideas that have shaped my nearly 20 year career coaching GameChangers. I also get to share great stories of some of the amazing people I’ve been fortunate enough to coach.
photograph: Jeff, his Wife, Lindsay and daughter Emory